| My personal mission or purpose in life
is "to help people find themselves." This stems
from the fact that I've had three last names during my lifetime
and have often struggled with "who am I?" I wasn't able to
articulate this purpose at the outset, and it's become
increasingly clear over the years as I left banking, went into
teaching and consulting.
I begin with myself, then extend this
purpose to my wife who was abused as a child to the point that
she was very tiny emotionally when we met. By virtue of
our relationship and her own courage, she has blossomed into a
vibrant, vivacious, outgoing adult. Although that will
never appear on my resume, it's the thing that I'm most proud
of, having helped her along the way and having tried to provide
opportunities for that to happen.
Next, we have four children. Can
we help them find themselves? Each has their own set of
issues and challenges, some bio-chemical, some emotional, some
physical. How will they spend their lives? What will
be their central endeavors? It looks like acting, event
planning, biology (marine and human), and photography at the
moment. What a wide spread.
Then come my students in the MBA
program. I've taught a Career Management and Self
Assessment and Career Development course for thirty years--all
focused on helping them find out who they are and what they want
to become.
Then the participants in my executive
education programs. They come to learn, and I've become
convinced that the best thing they can learn is clarity about
who they are and how their VABEs affect their behavior as
individuals and managers and leaders.
Then my consulting clients--who like
Executive Education participants--seek help in figuring out what
to do. Who are we? What should we do? How
should we do it?
Finally, there are my readers, those who
are kind enough like you to spend a minute or two ingesting the
words and ideas I offer. My goal there as well is to help
readers extend and expand their thinking and understanding and
in essence clarify who they are and what they can and want to
do.
So everything I do including my
recreation revolves around this central purpose, to help people
find themselves.
I have a colleague who says his purpose
in life is to cause people to think. Brilliant.
What's your purpose in life?
I encourage you to go beyond "help people" or "be happy" or
"raise my family" or "glorify God." You're probably
spending 20-30-40 years in a career or profession. If
you've spent 20 years building airplanes and you don't include
something about aerospace or aircraft in your mission statement,
you'd probably be fooling yourself. At a minimum, it would
look disingenuous to onlookers.
I'm blessed or privileged or lucky to
have found or chosen a career that allows me or perhaps the
other way around taught me what my life's purpose was/is.
Academia, teaching, consulting and writing all fit nicely a
purpose of "helping others to find themselves."
Can you find the words to clarify YOUR
purpose in life? It's not a trivial thing. Lily
Tomlin, the American comedienne, once said, "I always wanted to
be somebody. I guess I should have been more specific."
What a great line. Can you clarify your purpose in life?
It's the first step in self leadership. In fact, I think
one of the main responsibilities of leadership is to clarify the
elements of a charter, at any level, to those around. |